At times in life, things seem to not go the way we would like to. A job may be lost, a loved one passes away, the car breaks down, ect. These events may have been a long time coming or they may be sudden and unexpected. If you're like me, you may immediately slip into the mindset of "poor me", "this always happens to me", "once again I'm the victim". While at the time it may feel right and more then justified, this attitude is a blueprint for more pain and suffering.
Its so easy to fall into the idea that the circumstances and events in our lives the main factor in shaping our good or bad feelings. It seems so logical and natural that when things are going seemingly bad in our lives that is what makes us feel bad. When things seem to be working out for the best, that is cause for us to be happy. This illusion is so very powerful that many of us base our lives on it. However, this illusion is just that, an illusion. As I look over my life, it the worst things that ever happened to me actually worked out for the best. In the moment they transpired, I remember being emotionally and mentally knocked off my feet. I had that "this can't be happening to me" felling. I honestly believed in that instant that I would never be able to recover and my life would continue to wither and dry up until my time on Earth was over. With that mindset, telling that story of bad events always transpiring and really owning my certified victim-hood, I continued to live the sad story that I was all too happy to tell anyone who would listen.
There is hope though. The first step is to recognize the illusion for what it is. The circumstances and events in our lives only have as much power over us as we allow them to have. Sometimes, they seem very real and insurmountable. This is no so. I'm not at all saying that truly tragic events in our lives do not happen and do not require the emotions produced by our psyche. What I'm saying is that the stories we continue to tell will be the stories we perpetually live. We are the main character in the novel that we write as we go. When we can awake from this living dream, we can begin to rewrite our story and change our future. This opens the door to live the life we've always wanted. The changes can be immediate and/or occur over time. They will always materialize if we work for them. But the path to this new journey starts in the right NOW. You can begin to focus on the things that are working in your life right NOW and be grateful for them. Take time to appreciate those immediate things that bring you joy. Honor them right NOW and this will allow more things to be grateful for to flow into your life.
This is all a choice. People have the right to choose to be victims and choose to be ungrateful and choose to tell a negative story. But it does not have to be that way. Life is meant to be abundant and overflowing. But life is also meant to be a choice. We can choose the experiences we would like to have. We can choose the storyline we want to live. It is the very essence of free will. What will our story be? Will we rise to the potential or choose to fail before we even try. All that is required is the idea of possibility and the decision to choose that possibility in each and every consciously aware moment available. Its starts with a choice.
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